finding my own weakness...
Have you ever thought about the fact that pointing fingers at others is much easier than seeing our own faults?
Imam Ali (as) one of my greatest rolemodels once said: "blessed is he, whose own faults keep him from seeing the faults of others."
I don't know about you, but I find it really easy to look for someone elses misstakes. Somehow not only their actions but even their intentions becomes clear. Having a vision of someone elses misstakes especially when towards you, can lead to anger and hatred. I was trapped in that box not so long ago but you know what? This quote was stored in my head ánd just popped out. It made me realise that another persons flaws can distract me from my own.
What I'm trying to say is, stop looking at the other persons quality and look at yourself. If that person's actions directly hurt you, be extra aware of your reaction. Because being hurt through someones ill nature is the easiest way to fall into the trap. The trap of digging more flaws in the person just to be able to build a bridge of hatred. It doesn't mean you should be blind to other people's flaws. Just that we should stop searching for other peoples faults to instead become better people by finding what we, ourselves lack!